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∆ Bringing Unconsciousness To Light ∆
M U L T I D I M E N S I O N A L ∆ H E A L E R
#inner child
#codependency
#narcissistic abuse
#dissolving trauma

Jen Peters
Over thinking + replaying traumatic events in our Over thinking + replaying traumatic events in our mind can quite literally keep us stuck in a state of trauma. This is because our subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between an event being replayed or a future event being imagined + the real thing + releases cortisol + adrenaline in response to stress or traumatic thoughts. Here are some ways to manage your thoughts + reduce your overthinking + therefore the impacts. 1. CONSIDER PUTTING ASISDE a window of time each day or every second day to overthink or think through something that needs your attention. Perhaps a 30 min slot + once that time is over, try to put these thoughts on pause. 2. IF A THOUGHT isn’t serving you or is out of your control, practice not giving it any of your energy. When you notice your mind wondering again rather than finishing the thought, pause + turn your attention to something neutral. I tend to look at what’s right in front of me, or what I’m doing at that moment. This shifts our thoughts from something trauma or anxiety inducing + toward something neutral + in the present moment. 3. SHIFT YOUR THOUGHTS from feeling ‘helpless / powerless / victimised’ and into a more empowered state. Focus toward solutions rather than getting tangled up in the ‘what + the why’. Ultimately, we’re aiming to train our mind by putting boundaries around our thoughts + choosing where we put our attention rather than letting our thoughts run the show! The inner peace experienced when we learn how to quieten our mind creates so much spaciousness within + soothes our nervous system like a cool drink on a hot summer’s day. Do you overthink?
Parentification happens a lot yet, is not as widel Parentification happens a lot yet, is not as widely recognised as other well known childhood traumas. Parentification places a tremendous responsibility + strain upon young shoulders + often robs the child of their childhood. You'll notice those who have been parentified were often unable to just 'be a kid' because they were too busy attending to the needs of those around them. As adults they grow into caretakers usually at the expense of their own needs + they'll often have a very serious outlook on life + an overdeveloped sense of responsibility to those around them. Many of the people I work with were parentified, often cooking family dinners at 7 years old, taking care of younger siblings at a very young age, being responsible for the bulk of the house work + sometimes literally taking care of a parent who was unable to take care of themselves. Incredible shifts take place when we meet the inner child who still feels they need to play this role + instead step in + begin taking care of their needs so they can finally rest, be frivolous + play. Comment below - what's your experience of Parentification? How has parentification impacted you?
Repost from @thebehaviourtherapist • Be compassi Repost from @thebehaviourtherapist • Be compassionate and patient with yourself. You cannot be emotionally available and experience true intimacy if you are not willing to feel and experience the vulnerability that it brings. To love and be emotionally available means to take risks. Your thoughts?
We tend to think of emotional unavailability as a We tend to think of emotional unavailability as a lack of emotions + an inability to be emotionally present for others. And whilst this is indeed correct, what is less recognised is that if we find ourselves in relationships with people who are disconnected from their emotions + unable to be emotionally present for us - It’s highly likely that we’re also emotionally unavailable to ourselves. I see this A LOT particularly in those of us that tend toward self abandonment, people pleasing, over giving, over functioning + codependency. When we’re engaging in these patterns, we’re also being emotionally unavailable to ourselves. THE ISSUE is that when we’re engaging in these patterns, we are also being emotionally unavailable to ourselves. This reinforces our own trauma + we’re more likely to draw in partners + friendships that are also emotionally unavailable. They mirror back our own emotional unavailability. ✨If we want to experience emotionally available friendships + partnerships we must first be emotionally available to ourselves✨ This involves dissolving early childhood beliefs + patterns that cause us to be emotionally unavailable in the first place. I INVITE YOU to: NOTICE your own patterns + behaviours. Where are you emotionally unavailable to yourself? Do you people please? Or over function? Or prioritise others’ needs above your own? CHOOSE one area first + begin to bring this pattern back into alignment. SET BOUNDARIES that prevent you from self abandoning or being unavailable to yourself. ENGAGE in inner child work to dissolve your original emotional abandonment trauma - this is where emotional unavailability stems from. I offer loads of FREE guided healings on my YouTube channel to assist you. OR if you’d like to accelerate your healing feel free to DM me! Please SHARE with “2” friends who need to see this 🙏🏼♥️
Social Anxiety can feel completely paralysing + ex Social Anxiety can feel completely paralysing + extremely isolating particularly when those close to you don't truly understand. Suffering from social anxiety can make every day things such as friendships, socialising + work really difficult. There's often an underlying sense of being 'different' or that you don't 'fit' + that others will see this. I'm seeing more + more clients' who struggle with social anxiety + it's often absolutely excruciating for them + deeply lonely at the same time. I INVITE YOU TO REMIND YOURSELF: BE compassionate + gentle toward yourself. The Truth is that many of us are actually living in really quite energetically 'harsh environments' + we're around really very harsh people a lot of the time too. I'VE observed that many who experience social anxiety have lighter, finer energetic vibrations which make us more sensitive to harsh environments that others may not notice. YOU’RE not here to be like everyone else + your secret sauce is in being you! The more 'you' you are, the more easily 'your people' will find you. THERE is nothing 'wrong' with you. The social anxiety you experience is a trauma response + the avoidance, second guessing yourself, obsessive thoughts etc are all patterns that were formed mostly in childhood, to 'keep you safe'. 🌈I WANT YOU TO KNOW that healing is absolutely possible. The key is to dissolve early traumas that are still active in your subconscious mind. With each trauma dissolved, you become more + more free to be who you can here to be. Can you relate? 🙏🏼♥️
THE ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED Inner Child needs to hear m THE ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED Inner Child needs to hear messages like this to help them feel safe, solid + secure. However, it’s important to note that we can go substantially deeper than this message by tailoring the message to your unique needs + beliefs formed at the time of your original abandonment. (We discover this detail when we go into your subconscious mind during a process.) This allows a much deeper + more expansive healing + is exactly what we do in my private sessions with my 1:1 clientele! AS YOU LISTEN you’ll most likely feel a soothing come over you too - because YOU are the inner child - it’s just that you got bigger! As you heal your inner children - you heal you. ❤️I’ll be guiding our Self Healing Community through a healing process specifically for the Anxiously Attached inner children next weekend + again in the last week of October. I’ll also be sharing ways to enhance + integrate your healing into your day to day life. We’ll be working on the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style in November ❤️ If you’d like to find out more about the Self Healers Community, click the link in my bio + you’ll see the tab right there! 👉Comment Below with how you felt listening to this message 👉 Save + Share with those who would benefit Much love, Jen ❤️🙏🏼
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