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∆ Fawning is a trauma response that's formed in

∆ Fawning is a trauma response that's formed in our early years in response to not feeling safe within our environment as children ∆

I learnt how to fawn very young as a way of coping with a father who had a truly explosive temper. Others may form a fawn response when their household is chaotic, unpredictable, violent or with parents who are emotionally unavailable + unable to cope themselves.

∆ We become hyper aware of our environment + of the people around us so that we can read the climate + respond accordingly + in a way so as not to inflame or ignite them - thus staying safe ∆

We learn to people please + become overly agreeable as a way of avoiding conflict. This makes setting boundaries extremely difficult as the thought of saying 'no' could result in upsetting someone, causing us to feel extremely unsafe.

Those who fawn often dissociate - this is where our energy literally leaves our body as it doesn't feel safe within our body.

You'll know when you're dissociating as you'll feel spaced out, scattered, ungrounded, it will be hard to focus + deeply engage or connect + anxiety will be a common thread too.

One of the problems with fawning is that we completely abandon our own needs, emotions + voice in order to cater to the needs + emotions of others.

This stops us from living our life to our fullest potential.

WE CAN BEGIN TO HEAL by

∆ Notice when you fawn + what your unique patterns are

∆ Reflect upon when you're most likely to fawn

∆ Are there any people who you tend to fawn most around? Consider stepping away while you're healing or at least limiting exposure to them

∆ Practice saying no without over explaining or justifying why

∆ Practice noticing when a boundary is needed - you'll feel this in your body

∆ Practice verbalising a boundary - start small or with someone who has the emotional maturity to respond in a healthy way

∆ Inner child work to dissolve these patterns at their origin

∆ If you tend to dissociate, create an effective, daily practice where you call your dissociated energy back to your body + then ground.

FREE Guided Healing on my YouTube specifically for this - click the link in my bio

Can you relate?

We often talk about 'showing up for ourselves' ye

We often talk about 'showing up for ourselves' yet many of us don't actually know what that looks like - especially if we have a tendency toward self-abandonment or codependency.

The thing is, if we're not going to show up for ourselves + advocate for ourselves - no one else will either.

Showing up for yourself isn't being selfish - the truth is that you're far better equipped to show up for others if you show up for yourself first.

Here are a few ideas of ways that you can show up for yourself.

What ways would you add to the list?

∆ Many, many of us grew up feeling chronically l

∆ Many, many of us grew up feeling chronically lonely ∆

We may have had parental figures who were physically there + loved us, yet they didn't truly 'see us or understand who we truly were'.

This is a form of emotional neglect + often causes the child to only present the 'version of themselves' that their parent accepted or approved of. In the meantime, the parts of you that didn't fit into this 'acceptable' version of you are rejected.

Those parts of you still exist.

Those inner children are still within your subconscious mind feeling rejected, most likely not good enough, unworthy or some form of inherently wrong + they're feeling chronically lonely. That’s why you feel lonely - you’re feeling the loneliness of your inner children.

WE BEGIN TO HEAL our lonely inner children by:

∆ Connecting with them, seeing them, loving them + understanding them - especially the parts that have been hidden until now.

∆ We can do this through deep inner child work, over + over again until the loneliness, rejection, feelings of unworthiness dissolve + they begin to feel seen, hear, understood + loved - by you.

∆ Each time you feel the loneliness or rejection, or feelings of unworthiness or anything else coming up, this is your invitation to go inward + tend to these beautiful inner children within you who are calling out to be seen, loved + healed.

OFFERINGS

∆ I've created a FREE deeply encoded guided healing specifically for facilitating you to connect with your own chronically inner child + begin to help them heal.

Click the link in my bio + YouTube Channel or swipe up in my stories to access the Chronically Lonely Inner Child Guided Healing

∆ To Unlock + Activate your Healing more deeply I offer a 1:1 Heal Your Inner Child - Full Immersion Program - click the link in my bio + enquire about working with Jen 1:1

Do you relate to feeling chronically lonely as a child + even now?

∆ Emotional abandonment is extremely common + is

∆ Emotional abandonment is extremely common + is the inner child wound I see the most through my practice ∆

It’s also been my own deepest + most impactful wound.

An emotional abandonment wound is usually caused very early in childhood or even in the womb, when at least one parent either disconnects emotionally from you or was never emotionally available to begin with.

I spent most of my adult life oscillating between feeling needy + insecure when I was in relationships or doing my best to ensure no one got close enough to me that I wouldn't run the risk of feeling the original abandonment again.

This played a major role in undermining my ability to deeply connect with others as well as attracting people who were also emotionally unavailable mirroring my unhealed wound back to me. I was never able to be vulnerable enough to let anyone truly see me.

When we're guarded like this, we can’t actually receive love - even if part of us craves connection.

I didn’t even recognise this pattern until I began to heal + dissolve my abandonment wound + began to experience the contrast.

Where I once felt distance, I now feel connection.

Where I once felt guarded, I now allow my vulnerability to show.

Where I once felt insecure or needy, I now feel secure within myself + my relationships.

Where I once felt empty, like something was missing, I now feel filled up.

Where I once avoided love + connection I now allow love to flow in + flow out.

Where I once attracted emotionally unavailable people, I now attract people who are capable of connecting with me + loving me.

WE START HEALING by connecting with + healing the inner child or baby who was emotionally or physically abandoned. We see them, we love them + we empower them with a voice.

To be fully effective we must do this work deeply within your subconscious mind.

I have a free guided healing to ‘Meet Your Inner Child’ available - click the link in my bio

FREE Abandonment wound guided healing on my YouTube channel - link in bio!

You Deserve to HEAL + You Deserve to FEEL

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SO much love to all, Jen 🌹

Repost from @thebehaviourtherapist • Indecision

Repost from @thebehaviourtherapist
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Indecision keeps you stuck and in a frame of mind that is insidiously stopping you from moving beyond your mental attachment that you have created in your mind. When you feel feelings of confusion or insecurity when making a decision, your ego feeds on your uncertainty and insecurity to make you feel even more out of control and this clouds your judgement.

If we grew up with authoritative or overprotective parents that were constantly making decisions for us, our ability to make decisions becomes repressed because that autonomy was never encouraged. Or the complete opposite you may rebel and have trouble with authority because you can't connect to what you want.⁣⁣⁣

Another cause of indecisiveness is people pleasing. You may develop this desire to base your decision-making on what you assume might appease individuals around you.

Indecisiveness isn’t the issue, it’s what is underneath it (fear of rejection, fear of failure) you need to diminish this fear with evidence that you are worthy, that you have succeeded at many things and that you’ll be able to handle it if you don’t. The “perfect” decision is impossible. This develops more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way.

Can you relate to this?

Most of us have had more than enough experience wi

Most of us have had more than enough experience with Red Flags, so I thought I'd share some of my favourite Green Flags!

These behaviours can easily be applied to any type of relationship or friendship + provide some guidance around what healthy + balanced relationships look + feel like.

For those of you looking to uplevel how you show up in relationships, I invite you to view this list - from that perspective.....And notice where there may be opportunity for your own growth!

Let us know in the comments what your number one green flag is!

Sending love to all, Jen 🌹

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