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∆ Bringing Unconsciousness To Light ∆
M U L T I D I M E N S I O N A L ∆ H E A L E R
#inner child
#codependency
#narcissistic abuse
#dissolving trauma

Self Abandonment stems from an unhealed abandonmen

Self Abandonment stems from an unhealed abandonment trauma + is a major hallmark of Codependency.

Codependency is a collection of patterns that cause us to abandon our own needs in ways such as those listed above in the hope of being seen, loved or validated in some way.

One of the challenges with self abandonment is that society encourages these behaviours, so as children we're taught to be this way right from the beginning. As a result, many of us grew up thinking we weren’t allowed needs or that our needs weren't as important as everyone else's.

Many weren't taught how to meet their own needs so they grow up trying to get their needs met via their own self abandonment. There’s an underlying hope that the other person will one day reciprocate - not realising the other person isn't actually capable of meeting their needs because they can't even meet their own.

Chronic long term self abandoners often feel used, unappreciated, resentful + eventually become physically ill.

THE INVITATION for those who self abandon is to put your needs + own healing first + begin giving yourself the love, care + nurturing you so generously give others.

You Deserve To Heal.

WHEN WE DISSOLVE codependent patterning + the desire to self abandon:

We no longer chase love or settle for less
We set + uphold boundaries with ease
We honour + meet our own needs
We have a solid + secure sense of self
We feel more confident in our self worth within ourselves + our relationships
We draw in higher vibrational + emotionally mature relationships
We learn how to deeply love ourselves + as a result draw to us partners who are also capable of loving us back

TO HEAL we need to dissolve our core emotional abandonment trauma + associated patterns - My DIssolving Codependency Course will guide you step by step through doing exactly this.

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If you’re ready to Dissolve these patterns, click the link in my bio + use the CODE: 200OFF

Please share with "2" friends who struggle to codependency or self abandonment

Much love, Jen ♥️🙏🏼

PERSONAL SHARE Not everyone’s going to agree + s

PERSONAL SHARE Not everyone’s going to agree + some will unfollow while others will stand with me. I love you all.

Now more than ever we're being called to use our discernment + to have the courage to stand in our Truth - even if this means losing the very things we once couldn't imagine living without.

I've personally been shocked to the core at what I've witnessed being pushed upon Humanity in all corners of the world by the very systems who have been put there to protect + Serve the People. There has been + still is a far reaching + systematic attack on Humanity + what it means to be Human.

We've been threatened + our most basic rights taken away-under the guise of being 'for our safety' yet when one does their own research it becomes abundantly clear very quickly that we're being fed a constant stream of falsehoods + shifting of goal posts.

Zoom out + look at what we've seen in the last 2 1/2 years. There’s been a constant stream of 'crisis' being reported in the MSM keeping much of the population in a perpetual state of fear + anxiety leading to compliance.

Information has been misrepresented repeatedly whilst simultaneously discrediting, vilifying + cancelling those who have any other view.

If you cast your mind back to the larger events, you'll see deep divide driven by the narrative. We’re too powerful when we're standing beside each other in Unity.

Heres the thing though - the harder Humanity is pushed - the faster we awaken.

I'VE BEEN OBSERVING a shift in consciousness recently. More are waking up every day. I believe we're close to a tipping point

As we awaken we're discovering who we truly are + who we are not

We're finding our voice + our tribe is finding us

We're allowing that which no longer aligns to fall away

We're refining our discernment + no longer blindly accepting anything that does not feel right

THINGS THAT HAVE HELPED ME

Creating Community who hold similar views to my own

Creating safety + security within my own body

Not participating in conflict, division or judgement

Keeping my vibe high

Connecting daily with Christ Consciousness

Having compassion for myself when I have had waves of panic rise

Love, Jen ♥️

Repost from @the.holistic.psychologist • Many of

Repost from @the.holistic.psychologist
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Many of us are stuck in relationship patterns of: fixing, saving, or enabling.

HERE’S SOME REMINDERS AS WE HEAL:

1. Supporting someone looks like helping them with things they’re not capable doing. Or helping them *to become* more capable. Rescuing or enabling keeps people from facing the consequences + allows them to continue hurting themselves and/or others.

2. We are not responsible for the emotions or choices of other adults.

3. When we rescue other people from the consequences of their choices, we teach them that their behavior is acceptable + that they can continue treating us/themselves this way.

3. When we rescue or enable others it isn’t (actually) about them. It’s about us + our deep desire to feel love or connection. Many of us attempt to get our own needs met in this way, then wonder why we feel so disconnected or angry.

4. Authentic love is two equals coming together to help each other grow, heal, + evolve. With patterns of rescue, there is an unequal power dynamic. That’s why resentment is almost always a part of relationships where rescuing is the theme.

5. If we learned to be responsible for a parents emotional state, we inherit a sense of “over responsibility.” This leads us to re-create these patterns as adults.

6. Boundaries can feel scary if we were raised in this dynamics. Learning to set + hold boundaries are key in healing from these patterns.

7. Empathy does not mean you abandon yourself or allow someone’s harmful behavior. That’s a *lack* of empathy towards ourselves.

8. Some relationships will require you to choose yourself + your own well-being. This is a sacred act of loving care to your inner child.

9. Our society glamorizes self sacrifice as love. Authentic love does not require us to sacrifice ourselves. It actually helps us to meet our *true* selves #selfhealers

SO many of us felt misunderstood as we were growin

SO many of us felt misunderstood as we were growing up + as a result end up feeling unseen, deeply lonely, misunderstood + like we don't really belong here. This is a really lonely, isolating place to be.

We'll often move through life never feeling fully seen, understood or having 'our True self ' mirrored back to us.

There are a number of reasons why we may have felt misunderstood in childhood including:

∆ Our parents may have been disconnected from themselves + therefore would really struggle to deeply connect with + truly see anyone else beyond the surface

∆ Our parents + others will have been viewing you through their own programming + unresolved trauma therefore not fully seeing who your true signature essence

∆ Perhaps you were raised in a busy household where your parental figures didn't take the time needed to really see you + get to know you on a much deeper level

∆ Many people see us for what we *do rather than *who we are on the inside. We eventually learn to only put forward the parts that are *accepted leaving the other parts of us feeling unseen, misunderstood, not enough etc

TO BEGIN HEALING I invite you to create space to go within on a regular basis, at least a few times a week.

EXPLORE your inner most self, get curious about who you are + mirror your discoveries back to yourself.

TIP: When we mirror our feelings, thoughts, words back to ourselves we feel seen + understood. This is extremely important to do with your children so they feel seen + understood too.

JOURNALLING is a great tool to explore + deepen your understanding of your inner self. Try reading your journal back to yourself - out loud if possible. This will also help the part of you that felt misunderstood to finally feel seen + understood.

Can you relate to feeling unseen + misunderstood?

Please share with “2” friends who would find this information useful ♥️🙏🏼

Much love, Jen ♥️🙏🏼

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Big gestures, candle-lit dinners, rose petals and all that is so lovely but romance can also be found in the little things sometimes. A balance of both is often best for a happy and healthy relationship.⁣
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What is something that's not necessarily considered romantic but you find romantic? 💚

THERES NO SHAME in recognising ourselves in a list

THERES NO SHAME in recognising ourselves in a list like this. These are all trauma responses that have been formed as a result of being hurt at some stage + we've unconsciously created these patterns as a way of coping + avoiding being hurt again.

A past version of me did all of these things but had absolutely no idea she was carrying any trauma at all.

Looking back I can now see how much these patterns prevented me from experiencing the fullness + richness that would otherwise have been available to me - had I been able to receive it.

Relationships are an amazing tool that allow us to observe our own patterns + traumas + is an open invitation to heal them.

I would also like to say, that in some cases we have very good reason to be feeling the way that we feel, for example, if the person we're with has a history of being untrustworthy - it's completely understandable that we'd feel insecure or unsafe if they want to go out on their own.

In this case, the bigger question is: What part of you is willing to accept + participate in a relationship like this? And that's the area that needs healing - most likely a form of low self worth.

TO KNOW if this behaviour comes from unresolved trauma within you, just cast your mind back over past relationships or friendships - do you see these patterns coming up at other times + involving other people? If the answer is yes, then this pattern is most likely a result of unresolved trauma within you.

If you do recognise yourself in this list please know that you're being shown where to focus on healing so that you're able to enjoy yourself + your relationships on a whole new level.

Do you see yourself here?

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